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I Love Her More Than.

I never knew you could love someone this deeply before you even know them. But I do. I love her.

I love her more than risk can quench. More than security. More than comfort. More than rest.

I can feel her chest heaving against my right breast bone as her sleepy hair tickles the nook of my neck and I can hear her rhythmic breathing. It sings to me a song as old as love. I love her more than life. I can see the tears in her eyes when she’s hurt by someone. I love her till it hurts. I can hear her sweet voice singing to herself as the sun makes music through the windows and sets her dancing. I love her more than words. I can taste her cheeks as I kiss her goodnight and whisper sugar in her ears and I love her more than food and drink. I can smell her fears wafting from an anxious heart that I will defend to the death. And I love her more than risk can quench. More than security. More than comfort. More than rest.

I never knew you could love someone this immensely having never met them face to face. But I love her now in ways that cannot be expressed. After all, a fathers love is more than the capacity of vocabulary and daughters are a gift so sweet that love can do nothing but to grow.



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It Feels Like A Battle Cry

This post was originally written on March 11th, 2015
We went to war today.

By every single visible sign, it was subtle, except the tears streaming down my face. I have a feeling tears will be the war-paint of choice in this battle. Right now, I have saline smeared on my face like William Wallace, but maybe with a little less courage than him (maybe). This will forever be remembered as the day we printed out (and filled in) the adoption application and contract from our desired agency. My bride was walking out of my study as I pulled it off the printer, and snapped a photo of the header where it said, “adoption application”. “Are you smiling?” she asked before she exited the room. I shook my head back-and-forth to signal an answer of “no” but the smile on my face could have been seen from space. She added, “does this feel like a battle-cry to you?” Again I shook my head “no”, but she could read the “yes” on my face because it was as clear as day. I held it together as she walked down the stairs. When I heard the baby gate latch at the foot of the stairs, I quickly pulled up the phone numbers of two dear friends and texted them the adoption application photo I had just snapped (both of them know what it’s like to adopt and both of them know what it’s like to be adopted). As I typed the words “make war” to my brothers-in-arms, I lost it. Painting my face with the war-paint of salty tasting moisture. When I weep, it’s with every part of my body.

It’s a war within, if nothing else. I know this adoption journey will be no different. It will be a long line of battles until this life is done. After all, adoption doesn’t end with a plane ride home. 
I’m a firm believer that if you’re doing it right, life is war. At least for me it is. I am constantly battling selfishness and killing sin and honing the disciplines of righteousness. When my son interrupts me in the midst of a busy work day to show me his newest Lego creation, I’m thrust into a battle against my flesh and my desire for control and need for “to-do-list-accomplishment”. It’s a battle for gentleness and control. A battle for his joy. For my joy. When I’m called to place my bride’s interest above my own, I am thrust into a battle against selfishness and laziness and apathy. Speaking of my bride, she goes to battle almost every night as our youngest screams from his nursery. He is hungry and needy and she fights for his life. She is a warrior. I have a friend who goes to war every weekday earning his teaching degree so he can follow a calling to teach in the inner city and play some role in turning lives around. Another who works more doubles than I can count so his wife can follow her heart and be home with the kids. I know a woman who’s husband betrayed her, leaving her alone. Some days she finds herself in an all out battle for joy. I have hundreds of examples of people entering the trenches day after day after bloody day. Life is war.
 
For me, life is battle after battle of my flesh making war against the Spirit. The old man squaring off against the new man. It’s a war within, if nothing else. I know this adoption journey will be no different. It will be a long line of battles until this life is done. After all, adoption doesn’t end with a plane ride home. And as I ponder this, I am reminded of the words of Russell Moore:
 
“But adoption is contested, both in its cosmic and missional aspects. The Scriptures tell us there are unseen beings in the air around us who would rather we not think about what it means to be who we are in Christ. These rulers of the age would rather we ignore both the eternal reality and the earthly icon of it. They would rather we find our identity, our inheritance, and our mission according to what we can see and verify as ours – according to what the Bible calls “the flesh” – rather than according to the veiled rhythms of the Spirit of life. That’s why adoption isn’t charity – it’s war.”
( Russell D. Moore, Adopted for Life, 18)
 
And so as we strap our boots on for this war called adoption. My heart is racing. My eyes are hot with tears water. My breath is caught in my lungs and fear threatens to undo me in a million ways. But I am reminded of God’s word to King Jehoshaphat in the face of insurmountable odds on the battle field:
 
And he said, “Listen, all Judah and inhabitants of Jerusalem and King Jehoshaphat: Thus says the LORD to you, ‘Do not be afraid and do not be dismayed at this great horde, for the battle is not yours but God’s. Tomorrow go down against them. Behold, they will come up by the ascent of Ziz. You will find them at the end of the valley, east of the wilderness of Jeruel. You will not need to fight in this battle. Stand firm, hold your position, and see the salvation of the LORD on your behalf, O Judah and Jerusalem.’ Do not be afraid and do not be dismayed. Tomorrow go out against them, and the LORD will be with you.”
(2 Chronicles 20:15-17)
 
The hard truth is we’re not battle ready. We never have been. But in Christ we are ready for battle. God has a long history of winning battles. Winning the war on behalf of His children. So here we go. We’re strapping our boots on, gripping our weapons, and marching right into the battle! We’ve got our war-paint on. We’re scared to death. We’re confident. We feel vulnerable. We are invincible. And we have ourselves a front row seat to watch God’s victorious power on display time and time and time again. Won’t you pull up a chair and sit a spell. It’s going to be bloody and it going to be beautiful.

It’s time for battle. Make war.

“… I will come to you.”

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I will not leave you as orphans; I will come to you. Yet a little while and the world will see me no more, but you will see me. Because I live, you also will live. In that day you will know that I am in my Father, and you in me, and I in you.

(John 14:18-20 ESV)

(Photo Credit: Ricki Smith)

Taking On A Home Study (Together)

The need is great and the opportunity is greater. The cost is high but the return on investment is immeasurable. Link arms with us now, let’s whip this home study together and get busy bringing our little lady home.

Over the last 10 days, we’ve written individual autobiography papers, we’ve been fingerprinted, we’ve listed references, and we’ve filled in countless blanks on dozens of papers and signed our names like it’s our job (it kind of is). We’ve hunted down birth certificates and pay stubs and checking account statements. And I could bore you to death with a list about four times longer than this.

If paperwork is what it takes to bring her home, than bring it on. We’ll sign our name and fill in blanks until our hands bleed.

Right now we are in the midst of the home study application. After applying and being accepted by our adoption agency, the home study is basically the first big thing we’ve taken on in our the adoption journey. Our first step is to complete the application which involves everything from psych evaluations to FBI background checks and lots of signed and notarized paperwork. After the application is submitted and processed, there will be several in home visits, spaced out over several weeks, conducted by our home study agency. Finally, all of the information and paperwork will be compiled and our home study finalized. After that there will still be lots of work to do (ever heard of a dossier?). But one of the larger hurdles will have been cleared.

From start to finish, this process will take several months and cost several thousand dollars. Ouch! But with every stroke of the pen and phone call made and appointment required, we just keep wondering where our daughter is and what she is doing right now. If paperwork is what it takes to bring her home, than bring it on. We’ll sign our name and fill in blanks until our hands bleed. And every time we write the name Boekell on any of the forms, we think about writing her name on the paperwork when we bring her home. We’ll write the name Boekell then, too, and we know we’ll weep then just like we do now.

No matter how a family is brought together, there is always a cost. But it’s worth every penny.

And if it takes several thousand dollars for a home study and tens of thousands more by the time it’s all said and done, so be it. No matter how a family is brought together, there is always a cost. But it’s worth every penny.

And speaking of pennies… would you please thoughtfully consider giving some of your hard earned pennies (or maybe even dollars) to bring our daughter home? This can be your story too and we don’t think you will regret it. The need is great and the opportunity is greater. The cost is high but the return on investment is immeasurable. Link arms with us now, let’s whip this home study together and get busy bringing our little lady home.

If you would like to invest financially, but NOT online, click here for more info.

Our Hearts Flew Open

I believe we have a daughter in Colombia.

Can I be so bold as to say that? Ever since Paul & I married in 2008, adoption has been something we have talked about, something we have deeply considered. It’s a long story, but, also, it’s not. We feel drawn to the plight of the orphan. We feel called to intervene. And it’s an inescapable calling. An irresistible, terrifying, delightful, beautiful calling.

I just simply can’t imagine the hunger of not having a family.

One week in, & everything is starting to feel real-ish. Closer. There’s a very high likelihood she’s already been born. And abandoned. Relinquished. I think of her often, though it’s vague and blurry. But it’s also incredibly distinctive. I’m not even sure that makes any sense. But when I kiss Abe’s soft little neck, right under his cheek, I wonder if anyone is or has shown her affection. When I give Ezra that extra treat because he’s adorable and persistent, I wonder if she has ever had the luxury of a treat. Or if she, too, currently is begging but maybe for a meal. And I think of her when Isaiah crawls into bed with us every night. He has bad dreams sometimes. I bet she does, too. I know this sounds like crazy, dramatic babble, but it has been burning at me. At us. I just simply can’t imagine the hunger of not having a family. 

I am embracing this, we are embracing this as a family, because, quite frankly, I  have gotten too comfortable with easy. With feigning empathy. Trusting incompletely. Loving cautiously.

While we’ve received unbelievable support thus far, ultimately some people flat-out don’t get it. And some just don’t want to. Adoption most certainly is not for everyone. I get it. This is going to be heartbreaking. Nearly impossible and almost crazy. But. Our potential daughter is not the only one in need of rescue . I am embracing this, we are embracing this as a family, because, quite frankly, I/we have gotten too comfortable with easy. With feigning empathy. Trusting incompletely. Loving cautiously.

A seed was planted. Our hearts flew open.

And now it’s time to bring her home.

Adoption & The Boekell Family

We are pursuing adoption for several reasons, but the primary reason is our belief that God, through the finished work of Jesus on the cross, has reconciled a beautiful group of people to himself from wildly diverse backgrounds and from the ends of the earth. As children of God, we have been adopted into His family. And Jesus traveled far and paid a high cost to make that adoption a reality. Caring for the orphan is not just a biblical command, it is a reflection of the very image of God.  In Jesus we are called and equipped to bear the image of God as worship to His infinitely valuable name and we do that by reflecting the diversity of His large forever family in our little forever family and by caring for the widow and the orphan. This is our primary joy and motivation in our desire to adopt.

There are many other reasons. Family is one of the single greatest gifts we have ever known, and we believe our family will be enriched by the addition of another sweet face. We desire to stretch our own understanding of what it means to love unconditionally. We desire that our current children know that the bond of family is not determined by blood or even by race or geography or history. We desire to raise awareness among our family and friends and others for the desperate need of forever families for so many orphaned children all over the world. 

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We are currently part of an Ugandan adoption program and hope to bring a child home to our forever family in 12-18 months. But the adoption journey is anything but predictable and there are bound to be curves and bumps in the road but in the midst of it all, we feel an overwhelming sense of joy and peace and we’re beyond excited for everything that lies ahead whether it be bitter or sweet and likely both.

We’d love for you to travel with us on this adoption journey.

Meet The Boekell Family

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We’re the Boekells. We live in Huntington, West Virginia. We have called the Mountian State home for our entire lives. 

Paul is a pastor at Redemption Church in Huntington. And a photographer on the side (this used to be his full time job). He was born and raised in Huntington and is a graduate of Marshall University where He graduated with a fiancé.   

Sarah is a homemaker (& budding matchbox car racer). And she was that fiancé who became a bride on October 18th 2008. She has worked as a freelance graphic designer and commercial photographer and now she wrangles a mess of little men. She was raised in Milton (WV) and graduated from Marshall University with a husband.  

Isaiah was born in October of 2010 and loves jumping off of things. 

Ezra was born in July of 2012 and loves his family of stuffed foxes. 

Abraham was born in March of 2014 and, at least for now, has the squeeziest cheeks in all the land. 

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We enjoy telling stories, traveling to the beach, cuddling on the couch, cookies with sprinkles, making art, and kitchen dance parties. We are passionate about family, truth, community, authenticity, joy…and most passionate about Jesus Christ, the one who makes all of these things possible. 

Partner With The Boekell Family

We’d love to extend to you the opportunity to be involved in our adoption journey. This is bigger than all of us and we’re excited to walk together with others in this process. We believe that anybody who gets close to this is going to be changed for the better. Please join us. How? Let us count the ways.

Prayer: Maybe not everyone who reads this will be the praying type, but if you are please join us by lifting our family up in prayer. We don’t believe any of this is possible apart from the sovereign grace of our wonderful God. If you would like to stay informed about how you can pray along with us, you can sign-up for our newsletter by clicking here.

Money: To bring our child home is going to cost us around $41,000. That’s a lot of money and we don’t have it lying around either. Would you please consider investing financially in this journey? If you would like to give to us person, you can contact us here. If you would like to give online, you can do that by clicking here.

Events: We will be hosting several larger scale events: a yard-sale in the spring, a dinner in the summer, and an art auction in the fall and maybe some other fun stuff as well. You can link arms with us for the homecoming of our child by attending, advertising for, volunteering at, or supporting these events. We’ll let you know more as the events approach.

Fundraisers: Get your t-shirts! Get your raffle-tickets! Get your puzzle-pieces! Get your bid in for a photo-shoot with boekell photography! We’ll be hosting a wide variety of fundraisers and you’re participation will be a great way to stand shoulder to shoulder with us in this.

Etsy: We’re going to be selling art (some of it made by us and some by our friends) in our Etsy shop. All the profits will go directly to the adoption process. So buy some cool stuff and pave the road home for our child at the same time. Visit our Etsy shop by clicking here.

Art: Speaking of art, maybe you’re an artist and would like to offer your talents up to help give a child a forever family. We’d love to sell your work in our Esty shop or at our art auction this fall (2015). If this is you contact us by clicking here.

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Air Miles: We don’t have this set up yet, but we will most likely be able to receive the donation of air miles as our first and second trips out of the country approach. Maybe your extra air miles can buy our child’s plane ticket home. If your interested in this, you can contact us by clicking here.

Social Media: This one is easy, following us on social media and interacting with the content posted there will be a huge encouragement to us along the way.  And also with just a few clicks, you help spread the word about this adoption journey. If you are so inclined, share our any and all of our social media content and feel free the share the link to this website. Social media is like word-of-mouth on steroids and the team cannot get to large in this adoption journey, so follow and share at will.

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